I am 21 year old and attend a Communications College in Maine for Live Sound Technology.
I want to get out how my transition is effecting my family and friends. But most of all, how it is effecting me.
Feel free to follow, I enjoy company.
Anonymous asked: Most of the MTF guys I know have major issues with their lower halfs. Why don't you?
I think you mean FTM. And I do have issues with bottom dysphoria. I take it in strides though because I enjoy sex. I can’t tell you why I have less of it than others though. I always felt odd not having such bad dysphoria, but every one is different.
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To the people who asked about my ex. I showed her the questions you asked and this was her response.
I was harassed on tumblr so I would rather not share my url right now. However, I am willing to give Charlie the answers and he can decide to post them or not.
I like boys. I like boys because of how they think. A penis does not make a man. Me being there for Charlie was because I was his friend first. It wouldn’t matter what he was going through. Charlie was an amazing boyfriend and he talks about me like I was something special when I wasn’t. I was his friend and his girlfriend. Charlie was there for me much more than I was for him. You will find someone who is a good match for you, straight or not doesn’t matter. If they are there for you that is all that matters.
Anonymous asked: I have a question. but first a statement. "I want to get out how my tansition is effecting my family and friends." missing a letter. an r to be specific.
Thank you for pointing that out. I fixed it. And now… Your question?
Anonymous asked: So she met you when you weren't going by Charlie? She still dated you? I am sorry about all the questions. I am just really curious. Especially now that I know about you haven't taken any huge steps towards transitioning. How long till you start? I haven't started either, it's killing me.
Yea, she did. And don’t worry about the questions, I don’t get any in person. Like at all. So I’m perfectly ok with answering them. I don’t have a timeline for transitioning. I’m kinda broke.
Not transitioning isn’t killing me, the one thing that bothers me is the name stuff. My family is off and on with it. So that bugs me. But my binder does the trick for me for now. I mean yea, I’d love to have top surgery done already. But I have other expenses I need to take care of. I have a lowish voice, and I’d shave off any facial hair I got anyway. And I don’t have much bottom dysphoria.
Anonymous asked: How did you two meet? Did she meet you pre transition or after?
She and I met before I came out/just as I was coming out.
I’ve barely transitioned, No T yet, No surgery yet, No Name change yet. Nada.
Anonymous asked: Thank you for answering my question. It really helped. I will stay away from lesbians. You seemed to like her a lot. Can I ask what happened between you two? Did she say or do something insensitive?
It’s my pleasure to answer your questions. I’m glad that it helped.
She did nothing wrong.
Let me make that perfectly clear.
She keeps thinking she did though.
I need some time to figure out who I am and what I want. And to do that, I need to be alone.
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Honestly, Dating a straight girl wasn’t much different than dating any other orientated girl. She’s a person, she liked me and I liked her. She didn’t seem me as a “Trans* guy” she saw me just as a guy, and it was great. More than once she forgot I was trans*, we would be fooling around and she’d have to stop and snicker because “She was thinking something that didn’t make sense” because she’d forgotten than I wasn’t cis.
I loved dating a straight girl. But not because she was straight. She was kind, accepting, and was there for me whenever I needed her. If I was dysphoric she wouldn’t let me be alone even if I wanted to be. If I was feeling depressed, she would pull me closer and make sure I knew she was there for me. Our relationship wasn’t based on the fact that I was trans*. She was a girl, I was a boy…. who happened to have a vagina. That was it. Nothing more to it.
People wondered about us, I know that. I was told by her that people were asking how we had sex and stuff. Her response was always “Go ask Charlie” but no one ever asked me. I know they were curious but didn’t want to hurt my feelings. But I’d have rather they asked me than sit and make assumptions. One person told her that people were discussing us once, and that when they saw us together it was Charlie the boy and *******The girl and they were dating. But when they thought of us behind closed doors it was like a lesbian porno. And that makes me angry. Because they would rather see me as the girl I’m not than give me the respect of asking if they are curious.
I wish I could help you get someone who was straight, but really, the novelty of “being able to get a straight girl” wares off fast. I want her to know that I wasn’t with her because I liked the idea of getting a straight girl. I was with her because I liked her a lot. And if life were simpler we would still be together right now.
The best advice I can give you about dating a lesbian is, don’t. They like girls and you clearly aren’t one.
And as for bisexual girls, before you define your relationship sit down with them and make sure they see you as the man you are and not “The best of both worlds” as some like to put it, because that is terrible to hear coming from some one you care about.
I am perfectly ok with answering questions like this, as long as they are also worded like this. Respectful and curious. Not tactlessly invasive.
I hope this has given you some insight.
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